Why Males Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl―A Girl’s Information to Holding Her Personal in a Relationship

Beautiful Book!… though contradictory and occasionally abhorrent
It’s true! Men DO love bitches!
I’ve seen a lot of other reviews saying this book had a lot of contradicting statements though good values. “I hope no woman is following this word for word…” “It’s a good book to teach women values of independence and looking to take after herself, but to take this book seriously should be a crime.” I wanted to see what all the hype was about, especially after the title caught my eye.
All of the values in this book prove true. They are all principles and tips that lead to a woman having more respect for herself, more happiness, more contentedness with herself and no one else, and joy from an internal and self-fulfilled source. Essentially, by acting like you don’t need a man in your life– because it’s true!– and not tolerating disrespect, you maintain this goddess mindset and preserve your dignity and pristine temple of self. This makes men go WILD!
One of my previous boyfriends came back after I exuded these principles. He wasn’t treating me right. As the book mentions, he will keep treating you that way if you let him because he knows you’ll stick around if you tolerate it. So I had enough. I mustered enough self-worth and respect to say, “We’re no longer going to be together.” Just saying it isn’t enough. It didn’t stop until I packed my bags and left. He kept begging me to come back. I was firm and said, “No. We’re just going to have to be friends.” My bitchy demeanor had been given notice. I remember it like a gem. I was in the parking lot of his apartment complex, under the stars of the night. I had this new attitude, the “new-and-improved bitch”. I was about to say goodbye after game night with some friends, and he was impressed with my self-serviced attitude. His eyes were glowing with raging attraction. He came close to my ear, whispered, “I’m sorry for what I’m about to do,” and maneuvered away from my ear to face me. He closed his eyes, and came close slowly, kissing me in the softest, most romantic tone I’ve ever felt. Of course, I wanted it, too, but I “held my heart 10 feet away” like the book advises you to do, and I kissed him back. It’s sexy for both parties, let me tell you! Since then, he’s treated me with new-found respect, and I can sense his fear of stepping out of line. He knows I won’t be afraid to leave the second he disrespects me or treats me a way I don’t like. We’ve recently started dating again. Note: I did this before I’ve read this book, so this goes to show that this read is NOT just a placebo effect! 🙂 The principles in this book truly do work.
It exposes the dead-stoppers of a relationship that leads to a man’s reversal of attraction. I’ve found that a lot of these principles are true based on my own experiences. I am considered an attractive woman by today’s standards. However, I have always had this “needy” and “desperate” vibe that instantly turns men off. The SECOND I get over-emotional, men seemed to stop DEAD in their tracks, unsure of what to do like a deer in the headlights, and then start bouncing away. I’ve had rounds of men whom it seemed to go in a pattern with. They would be kind in the beginning. Next, I would start submitting to them, and then they would become aggressive, controlling, and manipulative jerks! (Sound familiar, anyone?)
Shelly Argov is right: men don’t want a submissive woman. They want a bitch to keep them on their toes because it gives them excitement! They want to continuously pursue you. Do this by telling them what’s what and how you expect to be treated! They want someone who has their own life and own hobbies and own interests and is content with herself! THAT is what a total package babe is, and men are allured to this. They’ll be stepping into line with the rest of your life with careful provision not to bother the perfect thing that you’ve already crafted it to be. They are mystified by it and drawn to it, awed by it, curious beings they are, and want to co-exist and live by what magnificent beauty you are in their eyes. This right here garners IMMENSE admiration and respect by men, and it won’t be long before he starts treating you like a highly prized possession. The best part? You won’t even have to change your life. He’ll have to enhance his to be in yours.
There were a few parts in the book that I have to pick a bone with, though. There were a lot of contradicting statements that made it hard to follow what you should actually think. For example, there was a lot of oscillation between “Tell him what you want” and “Don’t tell him what you want.” The first argument imposes the idea that you “treat him like his friends” and “give it to him straight”. The second argument gives the impression that “you will give him the powers to take advantage of you”. This ended up being confusing, and I wish that the author had clarified more the context and situations that these principles would be applicable to.
Another abhorrent detail to the story that I disagree with is the cruelty of women treating men. There were stories included of women leaving men to soak in the rain for hours on end alongside with deliberately ruining laundry by mixing reds and whites. These stories weren’t included for show of what not to do; they were included for show of what TO do. I found these suggestions horrifying, and I couldn’t understand how a woman could reach a level so steep. But maybe that’s because I’m too nice. 😉
Finally, I felt like there were moments where the book was not encouraging women to embrace their self. One classic example I’d like to bring up is the chapter on “talking too much”. Excuse me? I am a very outgoing person, and I love to talk because I love to bring up ideas and discuss patterns and express myself in this way. I talk about interesting things, and if the guy doesn’t like it, then I don’t need him! It’s good to listen to one another, and it’s great to have some space. Personally, I can’t stand when a guy talks too much. However, the author discusses talking as though it is a crime. She mentions that women “who are quiet present a mystery, and that mystery draws guys in”. I am interested to see how this one plays out. I think a quiet girl may draw a guy in, but Argov argues that women need to remain quiet throughout the relationship. My thought is: What’s the point in having a relationship that you can’t talk to your partner with about your exciting ideas and thoughts? How is that even a relationship at that point? Why put on a front that expects men to take notice and say something? Isn’t that putting the man above you?
All in all, I think this was a wonderful read. I was laughing towards the end of the book because everything said is so true and applicable as I think back to my own life. It’s exciting to see that many of the values I’ve gained in my own journey of self-respect are reflected in this book, and I no longer feel alone in traveling my own path. I feel empowered. The second-to-last attraction principle resonated with me greatly, and it helped clarify some lingering doubts I’ve had about blocking other people. I recommend this book to any woman who has ever felt like she is too nice or too bitchy– this book helps both opposing ends of the spectrum meet in the middle to create one classy, sexy woman!

READ IT IN ONE SITTING
I’m normally not one to write a review, but I read this entire book in one sitting. This book is not what you would expect it to be. It’s not about being mean but about directness and learning how to stay in your own rhythm of life because it ends up being better for both parties. I found this book to not only be highly entertaining, funny, and compelling, but extremely helpful and true. A lot of the principles I had a loose understanding of, but the theories were solidified with examples to further explain and lock down the greater why’s. I know this book is going to help a lot of women. And therefore, a lot of men too. Could not recommend this book more.

Argov puts the other half, stupidity on check, Amen!
I believe this book is a MUST read, especially if you have been hurt in the past by “jerks” and are in need of some wake up call, however, I do not fully abide by everything Sherry Argov suggests to woman to follow this sort of advice word by word. It has great advice on some levels but some of it, it’s a little over the top. For example, the whole “maintain your space don’t let him know relationships are your goal”, I know that many man find woman more desirable if the pressure is off in wanting a relationship especially right from the start. however, I like to point out if woman fail to state from the beginning, what is it that you really ultimately want in a partner and fail to recognize what you expect from him, he would do just that!!!
The last chapter, however, is the key component to any type of relationship because after all that is what life is about, is not about clinging to your partner all the time is about loving, respecting yourself as a person so that any man/woman can respect you as well. I know so many woman who diss their girls, cancel plans, exclude themselves out of reality just to be with their partner. Even if their partner allows them to have a life of their own woman make their new partners the center of their existence AND guess what? When he is gone, they are devastated!! They feel that because they did sooooooo much, dedicated time and effort they weren’t gonna be left behind. Sherry Argov suggest how to hold your OWN relationship (if you don’t already have one) how to be an independent woman so that man see you as an equal and how all those special things you want to do for them hold it off until they have EARN IT. How to not go out of your way the extra mile especially if he has not step up to the plate and shown you what he really is made of because believe me they are man out there if your let yourself be treated like a doormat he will walk all over you!
Books like this are written for a reason, to put stupidity on check, even the nice guys too. They are so many brothers who consider themselves gentleman nice type of guys yet they still play games on their woman all the time. Don’t get me wrong they are some brothers out there who keep it real in knowing what they want right upfront but that is exactly, Sherry’s “exception to the rule”, the one who aint playing the “usual” games that most of our man do. I don’t mean to get religious but man of this “world” will be wicked, it is what it is.
I ultimately, strongly believe Sherry Argov meant to wake up the ones who try toooo hard to please man all the time and at the end they get dump and FAST. This is sort of a wake up call for the dependent types. And for the rest of us who know best not to let a man walk all over us, it is reassuring us we are doing the right thing. For guys of course it is going to be maddening for this sort of advice to be publish especially if they`re out there playing games, expecting things to run their way, you know typical “macho” society.
“Why man love Bitches” gives woman how to have a voice of their own. A lot of woman go along to get along thinking that’s the right thing to do. Especially in today’s society where most of our woman have grown up without a father figure or if we see our mother’s tolerating unacceptable behavior from our father’s, just to have a man in their lives. Is simply not right and it has to stop!
My only advice read the book, don’t try too hard, if you find yourself NOT the exception to the rule, RUN! And if you do, embrace him.

Everyone needs to read this!

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