Troublesome Moms, Grownup Daughters: A Information For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (Self care reward for ladies)

This book will change your life!
Oh my goodness! This book has absolutely changed my life! The quality of my life, communication, and relationships has exponentially increased by reading and listening to this book AND applying what I learned. It was like having a coach, best friend, and therapist at my side holding my hand while I dove in and got to work on myself! Karen has done and continues to do THE WORK herself and selflessly shares her painful past turned into a beautiful message of healing, hope, and growth. Don’t be fooled or turned away by the title of this book if you have a great relationship with your mother either! Every single chapter, lesson, journaling exercise, and thoughts to ponder can be applied to any and every relationship or situation you encounter from mother and daughters, wife and husband, partner and partner, school teacher and students, boss and employees, work relationships, or any other difficult relationship you encounter. I was fortunate enough to speak with her and let me tell you, this woman is absolutely amazing! She is so passionate about delivering her message and works tirelessly to help women find their voice, heal deep wounds, and how to take back their own beautiful power. This is a MUST read and really drives home that the quality of your life depends on the quality of your relationships and the quality of your relationships depends on the quality of your communication. I tell everyone I meet to read this book as it will change their life. I will forever be grateful for finding this book! Heather N. CondomittiWomens Empowerment & Transformation Coach

It’s good, just not exactly what I was looking for.
In Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters author Karen Anderson provides real, actionable advice on how to deal with your feelings towards your difficult mother. However, I was looking for a book that could also help me avoid falling into the same practices with my own children.Although it does talk about how your relationships with other people might improve, it’s not very specific. I can’t make my mother change. I’ve accepted that an try not to react to some of the hurtful things she says. And I still visit and talk with her weekly, but I want to be a more gentle parent and need advice on how to avoid using the same strategies that were used on me.It’s not the author’s fault, though. It’s probably mine for wanting something the book is not. She decided not to have children, and that is fine, but it has nothing for those adult daughters who want to be better moms. The book is actually very good in helping you deal with the way you react to the things your mother says. But for mothers who want to stop the cycle and be better parents, you will need to look elsewhere.

Not just for daughters of “difficult” mothers – we all share old trauma to heal
What an empowering book. I love how the author shows how the persecution of women leads to a paradox in mother-daughter relationships. AND it is so profound that in healing this, we can do healing for generations before us (and then create a better future — imagine that!). It’s amazing and mind blowing and doable. So, I would not categorize my mother as “difficult,” but that doesn’t matter — mother-daughter relationships can just be inherently difficult because of the conflict the author examines of women at once wanting to be themselves and then also trying to remain protected/protect, so even if you don’t consider your mother to be “difficult,” per se, you’re still going to get so much out of this book. So fascinating, so important, such a crucial piece of the feminism and self-care and having-a-fulfilled-life pie. I LOVE the stories Karen Anderson tells about her own relationships too, with her mother, grandmother and stepchildren. A fan freaking tastic read. So read up and get to mothering yourself so we can be free.

Karen is a fantastic writer who knows from experience what she is talking about. The compassion that flows from this book will bath you in an understanding that you most likely have never known.

It was like reading everything I’ve ever felt but never had words for! I love the way she wrote it was clear and concise

There were some very interesting parts to this and it helped resolve some issues. Very good journaling exercises and which helped gained insight. Other parts I found irritating. It feels like she is portraying herself as a guru. Perfection in reaction is difficult and she highlights where someone can be abusive towards you and you have the ability to just smile? It gave me a feeling of a twelve step program approach which just got my hackles up. Everyone is different in their growth and what is needed for them may not be what is needed by you. This is her experience, some of it may work and some may not.