Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed
Original price was: $19.95.$12.99Current price is: $12.99.
Worth: $19.95 - $12.99
(as of Nov 25, 2024 04:56:45 UTC – Particulars)
The go-to information for coping with the narcissist in your life—now absolutely revised and up to date based mostly on reader suggestions!
Are you aware somebody who’s overly smug, exhibits an excessive lack of empathy, or displays an inflated sense of entitlement? Do they exploit others, or interact in deluded considering? These are all traits of narcissistic persona dysfunction, and relating to coping with narcissists, it may be tough to get your level throughout. So, how do you deal with the narcissistic individuals in your life? You may work together with them in social or skilled settings, and also you may even love one—so ignoring them isn’t actually a sensible resolution. They’re irritating, and possibly even intimidating, however finally, that you must discover a approach of speaking successfully with them.
Now a self-help basic, Disarming the Narcissist is a sensible, step-by-step communication information that will help you deal with and confront the narcissist in your life. Primarily based on reader suggestions, this absolutely revised and up to date third version options new info on disgrace, hypersexuality, and infidelity in narcissism; authorized info that will help you in case you are divorcing a narcissist; and the influence of narcissism on kids.
With this how-to information, you’ll discover ways to separate your self from a narcissist’s traps, and acquire the respect and validation you deserve—whereas side-stepping unproductive energy struggles and mindless arguments with somebody who’s on the heart of his or her personal universe. Lastly, you’ll discover ways to set limits along with your narcissist and when it is time to attract the road on unacceptable conduct.
From the Writer
Writer : New Harbinger Publications; Third version (October 1, 2021)
Language : English
Paperback : 240 pages
ISBN-10 : 1684037700
ISBN-13 : 978-1684037704
Merchandise Weight : 2.31 kilos
Dimensions : 6 x 0.53 x 9 inches
Clients say
Clients discover the data within the e-book enlightening, useful, and relatable. They describe the e-book as beneficial, highly effective, sensible, and liberating. Readers additionally say it is simple to learn and perceive, saying it states clearly and easily. Nonetheless, some prospects really feel the e-book is ineffective and never price shopping for.
AI-generated from the textual content of buyer opinions
11 reviews for Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed
Add a review
Original price was: $19.95.$12.99Current price is: $12.99.
Lanette Errante –
This Book Satisfied My Quest
For a couple of years now i’ve been on a quest to learn about narcissists & how to deal with them. Several years ago i lived with a man(boy) for 2 years (he is still in my life). at first his attentiveness & fixation on me & absolute “love” seemed great. inside, though, i had fears that it all couldn’t be true. after a short period came the criticisms, blames & bullying, manipulating, control & always him trying to shut me off from speaking. he could not/would not hear my voice. making a longer story shorter, he started reminding me of my ex, who did almost identical things with me. i wondered what it was about ME that magnetized these people towards me. during this wonderment i was trying to diagnose this man/boy & he seemed to fit just about every personality disorder in the books, but, alas, when i came upon narcissism, it could not be denied that his spectrum of behavior patterns fit the narcissistic brand like a glove, and IN SPADES. and i had patiently listened over the years to the little he offered in childhood stories, which he glorified in the beginning, yet, after awhile, the neglect, the dismissal, the non-love emerged, though he has not been able to label these things as such – – yet. i read Nina Brown’s books – Children of the Self-Absorbed & Loving the Self-Absorbed, then went online & read tons of Sam Vaknin’s writings about narcissism, which was wonderfully illuminating! i would return back to Sam’s stuff time after time over the years to help myself to understand what i was dealing with. Then, several weeks ago, Amazon advertising alerted me to Wendy Behary’s book: Disarming the Narcissist. i ordered it speedy delivery – a first for me!! This book has finally given me what i’ve been wanting for years – a real & compassionate way to talk to these people without engaging the anger, running away, freezing (going silent – just agreeing) or becoming contentious, otherwise known as fight/flight/freeze. This book has given me insight into my past & some ideas as to how narcissists have turned up in my life more than once. my own deeper introspection sets me free. i keep working on it. meanwhile, Wendy Behary has given communication/expression strategies in dealing with the narcissist(s) in your life. This has produced amazing results for me on two rather serious occasions. my dear narcissist was once again blaming me for something he did & through compassionate listening & description of his & my feelings, the results were amazing. i asked for 2 things: that he admit & apologize. he did both. it took a couple of rounds to get HIM to say the right words AND to give eye contact, but he did it; i kissed him on the head in appreciation & then we continued having a wonderful evening w/out a fight, or contention, or blame. this IS serious work, folks. i’ll not kid you – for me, i prepared what i was going to say & wrote it out, so i’d get it right, so it wasn’t an instantaneous thing; it took careful thought & wording & i prepared him earlier that i had something serious to talk about later. he’s still his same person, trying to fault me about things i said, or didn’t say, trying to get me to agree to all of his negative convictions about life & society & people, cutting me off when i’m speaking, pontificating self-righteously & not standing for interruptions when HE’S talking – most of which can be sloughed off by me. one has to truly pick when to put that foot down. one cannot really change the narcissist or his/her patterns, but one can put a block on how much blame, criticism, projection one will allow the narcissist to ‘get in.’ so, i HIGHLY recommend this book to anyone who has a person, or people in their lives who overstep their bounds with you, tend to push you around, dismiss you & your feelings, brag about themselves unrelentingly & blame you for the things they do. Wendy Behary talks of schemas & cognitive/behavioral therapy – all which deserve a looking into if one wants to really understand themselves and the people they tend to fall “into place” with. ~ Lanette, Connecticut
dawn hamilton –
Great
The book is great. The spelling and grammar errors are riddled throughout the book, leaving it harder to suggest to other professionals.
Robert –
Absolutely amazing book.
One of the greatest books I have ever read.. love it
gail b –
Good information
Lots of good information and a good read, but I didnât feel like gave me the tools I needed
Deanna –
Very informatiive and enlightening
This is a great book. I was married to a man who was clinically diagnosed with narcisstic personality disorder. He was threatened by the fact that I felt good about myself in a healthy way – recognizing my own strengths and weaknesses and he would try to take everything good about me and tear it down and exaggerate any flaws. At first, it made me wonder why someone would treat me this way and I became depressed. I was smart enough to get counseling which equates to information and support and counteracts their attacks. He hated this. He wanted control. I went on to watch him have many children with many women after I divorced him and the last one physically hurt him. I never thought he’d admit anything but he told (after not talking to him for about 10 years) that MAYBE he was the catalyst for the angry behaviors he instilled in people. Hey, for him that was a HUGE thing to admit. At any rate, I’ve dealt with a lot of people who want to sabotage others – they must be first at all costs and then there are those who simply are insecure and you really can stay in friendships, relationships, etc. if it’s on a mild degree but you MUST balance that with several psychologically healthy people. If the relationship is toxic, move on – there are too many good people out there. A little bit of healthy narcissism is good in all of us – helps build self-esteem but either extreme – feeling you’re better than everyone or being beat down by someone who thinks they’re better than everyone (or wants to think that) – common sense tells you that that is NOT healthy. This book is well-written and although we all interpret things differently, there seems to be a consensus that she delivers the right message and does a great job doing so. I think this is a great book for anyone to read.
Stephanie A Slack –
Good book for understanding narcissistic behaviors
This book came recommended to me from my best friend who went thru many years of this kind of behavior with her baby dad…we both had men with these toxic behaviors and helped us better understand how to break the cycle. Wish I had this book when I was actually dealing with it several years ago. Good read even after a person gets brave and makes the decision to just get out and get away.
JOSE BALAGUER ALEDON –
De todos los libros que me he leÃdo, el mejor. Ofrece una perspectiva diferente, pero muy profesional y esperanzadora. Los consejos que ofrece creo que son utiles para nuestra vida en general y no solo para lidiar con una pareja o familiar narcisista. Es casi como un manual de mejora y perfeccionamiento en nuestras relaciones. Thanks Wendy!
Manvi –
I’ve been longing to read this book since a long time and with limited stocks, I finally managed to place an order for this one.I want to acknowledge Neha from Infinite Books for co-ordinating with me and keeping me updated from order placement till delivery. Would highly recommend placing an order from Infinite Books. Very customer friendly!
Jo –
Timely delivery and item in great condition. Amazon had also bulked the order with another book that I’d ordered from another retailer to save delivery time/packaging. Thanks!
Raven –
This book is very helpful to those who have to deal with narcissists in their lives. Wendy Behary not only explains how narcissism develops and how to detect narcissists, she also comes up with a really good working approach on how to deal with these people.I tested it myself on my former husband suffering from a full blown narcissistic personality disorder.Of course you have to do a lot work on yourself to really survive and thrive confronted with narcissism.Wendy Behary shows the way with compassion .
Joan Lafleur –
Very interesting book as it explains the Narcisstic traits and highlights your own enabling schemas, once you face your own memories and conditioning, you will release your old memories and adapt new beliefs for yourself, you will realize that you and the N in your life share some schemas like subjugation and self esteem issues, that’s one reason why you usually take the abuse and feel hurt…The book gives good techniques to use when facing the Narcisstic’s abusive behavior, you mostly need to stay conscious and aware of the N’s patterns and conditions (at the same time as yours) and react appropriately instead of reacting defensively (as you used to), you will be able to do that once you have developed compassion towards yourself and towards the N in your life. I get the impression that this is not an impossible mission but it may take long and hard work to get the Narcisstic to take responsibility for their actions and verbal abuse then correct them, you will get no where if you keep reacting defensively and hurt the N back, it is like hurting a child (because that is what they are inside) you need to almost learn to educate them once again using a loving and compassionate language. I am in a relationship with a N and am still in the exploration phase, I used to feel hurt and suffer so much, I am now at a phase where I feel detached from whatever the N says but it is still tough at times (when you don’t expect it!), I am trying to learn to develop my communication skills, this is great effort. I find the exercise worthwhile because weither the relationship remains or not, I would have overcome my own issues and learnt how to face abusive behavior.