Learn how to Clear up Your Individuals Issues: Coping with Your Tough Relationships
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Sensible Assist for Relationships! Regardless of how a lot you are drawn to somebody’s positives, you may finally encounter their negatives once you get in shut. The truth is, the nearer the connection, the extra seemingly it’s that friction will happen. However all battle is just not created equal. Drawing on years of counseling expertise, Dr. Alan Godwin has put collectively an easy-to-understand have a look at “good” and “dangerous” battle. Providing concise definitions, clear illustrations, and particular choices for coping with battle, Dr. Godwin helps you . . . • successfully take care of battle in numerous relational conditions • study the totally different strategies wanted for dealing with unreasonable individuals • set up good communication and wholesome boundaries • counter previous battle patterns after they return and get again on monitor Make your good relationships higher and deal with your troublesome relationships extra capably by implementing the ideas and steps on this ebook. A beautiful useful resource for many who want higher communication, help others in dealing with battle, and need higher methods to deal with troublesome individuals
Writer : Alan Godwin (January 3, 2011)
Language : English
Paperback : 242 pages
ISBN-10 : 0615431321
ISBN-13 : 978-0615431321
Merchandise Weight : 10.1 ounces
Dimensions : 5.5 x 0.51 x 8.5 inches
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Francesca75 –
Clear, informative, practical, easy read
I bought this book two months ago after an upsetting conflict. Out of all the books available on the subject, I bought Dr. Godwin’s specifically because reviews had mentioned he addresses the differences between trying to resolve conflicts with reasonable vs. unreasonable people.That’s always been my complaint: that all the self-help books and commuication strategies to resolve conflicts only work if you are dealing with a cooperative and responsible person. But my family, and so many people I would routinely encounter, were impossible. It made me crazy. It made me very sad. And I never found a book that addressed this, especially not one that was quick and easy to read, written not in academic language but for practical use.By the time the book arrived, I no longer cared as much about the frustrating situation so it sat unread. Then this morning, I had an encouter as crazy-making as they come. Someone I’d upset stood me up, then called the next morning to berate me – and claimed they hadn’t stood me up because they’d told me they might not come. They made several other claims that were wild distortions of the truth. They wouldn’t let me speak. Then when I instinctively went quiet,realizing I wasn’t being heard, they said I was being passive-aggressive. There was more, but you get the point.I pulled out Dr. Godwin’s book. I’ve now read only two chapters of the 2nd part but without hesitation give it 5-stars. I personally think the truly brilliant books are the ones that you can understand! And the ones you can read in a night, if so inclined. Anything beyond that is filler.His book accomplishes all that. He says 5 times more than most people in 1/10th the space.I promise you – if you are dealing with someone who bullies you verbally, seems to exist in their own reality, relentlessly blames everything on you so that you start to think you’re crazy, doesn’t treat you with respect while claiming you’re the one not treating him with respect…you get the picture…get this book.There’s something so healing about reading a description of your experiences and having your responses validated. There’s something so freeing about being told “This person who does THIS and THIS and THIS is NOT reasonable and you won’t be able to reach him/her because your goals aren’t aligned and all they want is to be right.”I’m a psychotherapist. They don’t teach you this stuff in school and I never saw it explained in any self-help book before. I studied communication as part of my couples’ work and still never came across a commonsense discussion of how to argue with a narcissist. All you ever read are descriptions of good vs. bad communication practices. You’re never told that some people will never use or respond to effective communication skills because they aren’t interested in communicating – they only want to be right.Get this book. You’ll both enjoy and get a lot from it.
Reader –
One of my top favorite books that I have ever read
The author speaks of certain relationship skills that healthy people have developed. Essential skills such as awareness, humility, empathy, reliability and responsibility. He refers to them in a sense like muscle development and he speaks of how some people have just never developed those muscles in their younger years and how to deal with those people. And for those who don’t have those muscles due to perhaps a lack of capacity for developing them (such as pathological issues or other), he tells how to deal with those types also. Understanding the difference between these types of people ( those who never developed the muscles and those who don’t have the capacity) and the way to deal with them was a very powerful eye opener for me. I used to believe that most people who were deficit in these areas were like that primarily due to the lack of willingness and perhaps some stubbornness. Now, I know there is a difference between a person who “won’t” verses a “can’t” and how to tell who is which to some degree. And understanding that helps me adjust my expectations when dealing with certain types of people. After reading this book, I was wondering, who is this guy as I had never heard of him before and where has he been during my reading years as he has some powerful and eye opening material. In the last five years I have likely read over 200 books and I would say this book is one of the top five impactful books for me that I have read and perhaps the most insightful on understanding on why some people have the capacity to change and some people do not. This book is absolutely worth buying and reading!
Megan L. –
Meg’s review
The book gives good pointers on how to improve conflicts. The descriptions of different types of conflict are great. You can really relate with the scenarios. The last half of the book focuses on conflict with unreasonable people. The break down of “unreasonable people” is exactly on spot. I would definitely recommend the book to anyone, as it is very relatable. However, some of the writting is a bit juvenile. He gives a lot of examples of things that are really unnecessary and appear to be somewhat of a space filler.
carisse young –
Must have for everyone
By far the most amazing book I have read this year. Great for when have issues with others
Jennifer L. Myers –
Well written, clear, but not dry
Canât say enough good things about this book. I deal with several unreasonable family members who struggle with being properly regulated for various disorders. This book has helped me identify when theyâre in unreasonable states and has given me realistic concrete strategies to use. Iâve only been using the strategies for a few weeks but Iâve already experienced some success and, more importantly, saved my energy and gained some inner peace. Itâs worth noting that I also skipped straight to the âunreasonable peopleâ section and had no trouble understanding the authorâs material. Wonderful book.
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Provides a memorable map for navigating interpersonal conflicts
What I like best about this book is that it gives a cohesive map for managing conflicts that is filled with wisdom and memorable to carry out.
Christine B. –
Alan Godwin’s book is very reasonable and human friendly!
We were having daily problems with our bullying neighbors for 4 years, since moving here. My husbands plan was for our family to be the best, kindest neighbors we could be, in return. I thought in theory, that over time they would appreciate having nice neighbors and their daily bullying would slowly calm down. But over 4 years, it just increased!. It became unbearable!. I started to lose my temper!. I chose Alan Godwin’s book, People Problems, because I wasn’t looking to win, I just wanted a certain level of daily peace.. His advice was containment. That made perfect sense to me. So slowly, and quietly, step by step, I am working toward that goal and it is so much better now. They really haven’t changed their bullying behaviors, they are just gradually experiencing containment. And I am experiencing a measure of peace. Alan’s advice is very reasonable and human friendly. Thank you Alan
Jagannath –
This book gives a very clear ideas to manage reasonable & Unreasonable people. Also covers some of the techniques to deal with both.