Strolling on Eggshells: Navigating the Delicate Relationship Between Grownup Kids and Dad and mom
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The proper present for each mother and father and their grownup youngsters—”a splendidly clever and constructive intergenerational information” that may preserve you linked to the folks you’re keen on most. “Learn it and be taught.”—New York Occasions bestselling creator Judith Viorst
We elevate our kids to be unbiased and lead fulfilling lives, however once they lastly do, staying shut turns into extra sophisticated than ever. And for each bewildered mom who wonders why her youngsters don’t name, there’s a pissed off son or daughter who simply needs to be handled like a grownup. Now, famend creator and editor Jane Isay delivers real-life knowledge and recommendation on learn how to keep collectively with out falling aside.
Utilizing intensive interviews with folks from ages twenty-five to seventy, Isay exhibits that we’re removed from alone in our struggles to make this new, grownup relationship work. She provides up groundbreaking insights and deeply transferring tales that may encourage these in even the hardest conditions. Isay’s heat and wit shine by way of on each web page as she charts a useful course by way of the complicated, and sometimes painful, interactions mother and father and youngsters can face. Strolling on Eggshells is the much-needed street map that may preserve you linked to the folks you’re keen on most.
Writer : Classic; Reprint version (February 26, 2008)
Language : English
Paperback : 256 pages
ISBN-10 : 0767920856
ISBN-13 : 978-0767920858
Merchandise Weight : 6.4 ounces
Dimensions : 5.2 x 0.52 x 8 inches
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STW –
Helpful
I had expected this book to be more psychologically oriented, in the psycho-babble sense. As a psychiatrist, I find those books to be annoying and superficial. I picked this book up b/c of its title:âWalking on Eggshells. . . â, which was the way I felt in every exchange w/ my then 29 year old daughter. I couldnât say anything right, she seemed annoyed w/ me and occasionally would flash into rage.I found this book to be very helpful because it lets no-one off the hook for their perceived or actual mental illnesses, especially if those are used as an excuse for bad behavior. The book didnât attempt to explain individual behavior much, but rather it examined the flow in families and how that flow can be disrupted. If family members donât care enough to examine and talk about the disruption in flow, the disruption becomes permanent, distance increases and it becomes very hard if not impossible to talk about problems.A very good book.
doloresbug –
Itâs very informative
Liked the good condition. It was like new.
OGL –
Relationship Woes
It was interesting to read snippets of other family relationships and to see yourself or your children in some cases. It ended with a feeling of hope rather than hopelessness and that was much appreciated in a time when hope is sometimes all you have.
Beachinbunny –
Walking on eggshells
Great book to read!
Amazon Customer –
Good reference
Solid advice that youâd THINK would be common sense, but is actually sometimes difficult to implement in your own life. I am grateful I picked up this book, to give me concrete ideas to help.
Melanie –
Somewhat comforting, but not much useful advice
I found this book interesting and useful in a “you are not alone” sort of way, but found much of its advice reductive and harmful. When your thesis is “children just want to be treated like adults” and your solution is “never say anything to your adult that might be upsetting to them so they don’t hate you” it seems like the author may have identified the right problem, but learned the wrong lesson. I was hoping for more constructive discussion and advice on boundary setting, self awareness, and open and honest communication. I also didn’t appreciate the extremely gendered assumptions about the nature of mother/son and mother/daughter relationships (there is very little about father/child relationships). Overall, some good moments, but be ready to take some of the outdated views with a grain of salt.
geoffandgrace –
helpful, easy read about family dynamics
Iâm the kid in the family who fixes the big fights between my parents and sister. It was helpful to know that others have that experience and to get a sense of how both sides might be feeling. Sent a copy to my parents and sister, and hopefully they will take it in the spirit it is intended. At the end of the day, families are more resilient than we think.
Mary –
Happy with Purchase
I ordered the book on March 31 and received it on April 6, so it arrived in a timely fashion. The book appeared to be brand new from the outside. The dust cover showed no wear and the book felt new. A week or so after receiving the book I finally opened it to read it and discovered green highlighting throughout the book. The highlighting is obviously on passages that spoke to the previous reader, but kind of takes away from the statement that the book was ‘new’. Am I upset? No, some of the passages that are highlighted speak to me too. Would I have bought the book if I had known there was highlighting in it beforehand? No, because I wouldn’t have known the extent of the highlighting. So I am giving it 4 stars, but I’m not unhappy with the purchase.Responding to the contents of the book: This book is about having a positive relationship with your grown children – say 25 years and older, possibly out of college and living on their own, but possibly still living with you. Jane Isay has compiled a number of stories to illustrate different ways parents of children have coped with their children growing up and ‘distancing’ themselves from their roots to gain autonomy. It could speak to you as being the ‘grown child’ if your parents are still living or as being the ‘parent’ of grown children. For parents who are new to this experience, it is a painful ripping apart of your soul as you try to navigate staying in touch with your children without allowing yourself to be their doormat and disrespected beyond all reason. Hurt feelings, miscommunications, misunderstood motives abound. I’m a fourth of the way through the book. At the end of the chapters the author has summarized the points she is making. So far they are uplifting like her comment that she was surprised to find it just takes little changes to improve the relationship with grown children. (This was one of the green highlighted parts of my book.) The stories illustrate examples of ‘little changes.’ It’s a reasonable read and positive. I was referred to the book by a client of mine who has recognized him and his wife in some of the stories and that is helping them make ‘little changes’ to have a better relationship with their grown child who lives in another country – the ultimate in distancing.
MH –
Excellent resource to help parents with the transition into advisory as your become young adults and move out of the house. I looked everywhere and this was by far the most helpful to navigate the new normal.
Amazon Customer –
Understanding my adult children and learning how to see both sides
Rhtdm –
Excellent book…. It’s the work of her life! Plz recommend books if you come across more work like this.
Amazon Customer –
Fantastic book!
Helen Fitzpatrick –
As above