The Braveness to Be Completely happy: Uncover the Energy of Optimistic Psychology and Select Happiness Each Day

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Arrived in good condition. 2nd book in the series and builds on the concepts of the first book

Outstanding Sequel to The Courage to be Disliked
While I thoroughly enjoyed The Courage to be Disliked, I found The Courage to be Happy helped to reinforce the concepts in the prior book and emphasized the two grand themes of “love” and “self-reliance.” These two grand themes tie all the concepts together.Once again, there are two main characters: Youth and Philosopher. They banter back and forth exploring more of Adlerian psychology. Adlerian’s psychology may be considered a philosophy because it addresses life’s problems in plain language that can be understood by anyone.Self-reliance is breaking away from self-centeredness. We go from trying to be the center of the world and breaking away from “me.” Instead, we become members of our communities and have concern for others in our society.“Self-reliance is not an economic issue or a work issue. It is an attitude toward life, an issue of lifestyle. … At some point, the time will come when you resolve to love someone. That will be when you achieve separation from your childhood lifestyle and achieve true self-reliance. Because it is through loving others that we at last become adults.”Love is a decision, a judgment, and a promise. And it is possible with any partner. It is not fate or destiny because we must not become destiny’s servants.

An interesting, logical framework
I read this book after devouring “The Courage To Be Disliked” which I found logically sound. I am a student of mathematical logic and when I hear an argument about reality, I listen carefully to the logical path it takes to come to its ultimate conclusion, which his previous book did with skill. I truly enjoyed Adler’s theories of human behavior outlined in such a way, and found them to be more fascinating that Frued’s models. For this reason I picked up the second book.Those who found the dialog structure tedious in the first book will find themselves doubly annoyed in the second book, as the younger man character is about as obtuse as one can get, and simply parrots the wise man’s words back to him about 90% of the time, which does not add to the message but only breaks up what the wise man is trying to convey. Example:Wise man: “You must write a good amazon review to get people to read the book!”Young man: “To read the book?”Wise man: “Yes! To read the book!”The repetitive nature, I believe, is either a consequence of poor translation or to slow the reader down so they think harder on the concepts, which I don’t believe is necessary. If you read books like these, it’s likely you are a student of philosophical models and can grasp things quickly.Now, all style talk aside, did I like the message? Indeed, I did enjoy the ideas outlined here, which reiterate some of the ideas of the first book and adds more detail and nuance. A lot of the dialog is about the act of teaching others, and represents an idealized notion of what teaching is. I didn’t much care for that stuff because I’m not really a teacher.What I think is most valuable about these books is the notion that no matter what we have experienced, we have ultimate power and control over our lives and trauma does not define or control us. This automatically alleviates much learned helplessness depressive states we tend to slip into. Further, it prompts the reader to really wonder what the teleological reason for their behavior is. Are we using the “poor me” and “that awful person” excuse not to do our life tasks? What might our goals really be?Most of the walls we construct around ourselves are false limitations that we can just knock down once we really understand that courage is what we lack, not opportunity or power.I have already begun asking people “Do you have the courage to change?” and found they respond much better to that statement than “You need to change.” When you challenge others to summon courage, they somehow summon it. No one wants to be thought of as a coward.I recommend both books.

LIFE CHANGING!!!
I very rarely write a review for products but I am feeling a strong internal urging to write one for The Courage to be Happy which I read recently after finishing The Courage to be Disliked. Both books were profoundly impactful for me, and after 32 years of parenting a child, I am working well with her finally, as is my husband, who has read The Courage to be Disliked. There is such depth and wisdom in both books and for me they are both deeply spiritual in nature although not in an obvious way. I definitely respond better to philosophical points of view such as presented here versus traditional psychology/therapy which has helped me in such limited ways. Due to and thanks to the books beautiful simplicity and helpful guidance, I finally understand the power of having unconditional confidence in others and meeting them on a horizontal plane versus a vertical one. Thank you Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga for changing my life for the better. I am grateful to you both!

Thought provoking and stimulating. Especially about making one’s destiny rather than it being something that happens to us. Refreshing read indeed.

Je n’aime pas lire des dialogues continus. J’ai lu quelques pages et puis stop.Je ne peux pas juger le contenu, uniquement le “format” qui ne correspond pas à mes préférences.