The Extremely Delicate: The way to Discover Inside Peace, Develop Your Items, and Thrive

Perfect for What I Needed
There is often the assumption that only women are sensitive. While women may be more sensitive than men (its a hormonal thing), I do know that I have always been told by others that I am overly sensitive. Certainly empathetic, compassionate, and I am tuned in to other people’s feelings and moods, all the time. I’m a crybaby when I watch television shows or movies. Same with at weddings and funerals. I am a bit of perfectionist. I like small social settings and avoid large ones like the plague. It’s a blessing and a curse.I didn’t even know Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) was a thing until I stumbled upon this book on Amazon. I decided to download a sample, and within its first 25 pages this book nailed me to a tee. I purchased the book and read it in its entirety in little less than a week. Sooner if I wasn’t reading other books at the same time.According to Dyer, the signs that you may be a Highly Sensitive Person are:1. A tendency to feel particularly overwhelmed in noisy environments2. A preference for smaller gatherings of people rather than large crowds3. A good track record of picking up on other people’s moods and motives4. An ability to notice little changes in the environment5. A tendency to be easily moved by music, books, films, and other media6. Heightened sensitivity to hunger, pain, medication, and caffeine7. A need to recharge and relax alone on a regular basis8. An appreciation of good manners and politeness9. Difficulty in refusing others’ requests for fear of hurting their feelings10. Difficulty in forgiving yourself for even the smallest mistakes11. Perfectionism and imposter syndrome12. Trouble handling conflict and criticismIf most of these identify you, then you are likely a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). Once you are convinced that you are an HSP then the rest of the book will flow nicely for you. As Dyer jumps into how best to navigate through life as an HSP. Whatever you do, don’t think of this as a disability or a mental health illness, because it is neither. It is simply how you are wired. There are probably others who are not sensitive, stoic, and not in tune to other peoples sensitivities.Dyer goes on to offer ideas on how an HSP can get through life a little bit easier. For example, how to deal with emotional overwhelm and building your emotional intelligence. How to set boundaries and say no. How to filter out toxic people in your life while at the same time not falling in love with others too quickly. Then she goes on to offer ideas on how to eliminate negative energy in our lives (this one was a bit unorthodox), how to deal with depression and anxiety. And, what careers are befitting to those of us who are HSP. How do HSPs parent, and how to detox from social media since we HSPs are so in tune to others.I can go on. This is a great book through and through. It’s not an end all for HSP but it does at the very least offer clear insight into what an HSP is. And, that is all I needed. I highly recommend this as an elementary introduction into Highly Sensitive Person. There are other books out there that expound upon it in much more depth and greater detail. For me, this was all that was needed.

Helps to sort out how you think.
This is a good book with a new process of figuring out why you think the way you do. An interesting read.

Ok
Didn’t read a lot

Nothing like a new perspective
Judy’s book helped me understand my own mind better. I can now frame what I was feeling in so many circumstances that baffled me. I know how to set boundaries for myself now. Thank you!

I found this book to be a quick and easy read with great insight and good suggestions. I saw myself right away – we are never totally described as a type; but we are often many of the traits described by a personality type and can take important moves in the right direction to better understand and deal. This book was great for that; I especially liked the chapter on saying NO, when and how.

I bought this book a few years ago and have just re-read it. As a HSP I find it immensely reassuring and comforting, with strategies to manage feelings etc. Yes it does seem expensive for a small book, but the author also offers free downloads of books. For me, it was worth the money as it is a reference I will use again and again, written in easy to understand language with no jargon.

This book does an excellent job of describing the characteristics of an HSP and provides a great many suggestions and techniques toward continuous improvement in dealing with one’s emotions, relationships, and occupations.